I’m learning a lesson about being on my own path and allowing others to freely be on theirs. Even loved ones.
I recently heard from a close friend that was having problems, and this has been an ongoing issue for years but they confided that things were tough right now. This time felt different, I could hear the stress and emotion in their voice and it kind of scared me. So I started sharing all of the resources I knew of that could help them and tried to change their perspective on their situation. It didn’t seem like what I was saying was landing with them though. After we hung up, thoughts ran through my head of how I could help them. I could engage the help of others that also care for this friend and would want to help. I could also try to refer them to one of my trusted coach friends or perhaps encourage them to speak to someone. After many days of trying to think of ways to help, sending text messages and emails checking in, encouraging them to look at life in a more positive light, or to read a book that had helped me through, I came back to the realization that I can’t help someone who isn’t ready for help.
They are choosing their own path and I can’t change that. Just as much as I don’t want anyone trying to change the path I am choosing to take. I will be there for them when they need it, and if they ask for my help, I will do what I can.
This isn’t a new lesson, it’s just one that is taking me time to learn.